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Matthew McConaughey refuses to be blackmailed into sex when teen ‘beats’ him

Matthew McConaughey said he refused to be blackmailed into having sex when he was 15 and was drugged and molested by a man when he was 18 and “beat him”.

The Dallas Buyers Club star, 52, previously shared the harrowing reports in his autobiography Greenlights and has now detailed the conversations he had with his father, in which he was informed that this is not the way how someone should be treated.

On Amanda de Cadenet’s The Conversation: About the Men podcast, he said of his parents’ lessons on sexual intimacy and respect, “Well, my parents taught me to be guided, respect a woman, respect the woman Relationship, respect for sexual intimacy, respect for space.

“My dad always had this thing when he was teaching us about the birds and the bees, he would sit me down and talk about the birds and the bees. “You’re getting so old that you kiss?” and I said, “Yes, sir.”

“And he says, ‘Well, one day it’s going to go further. I paraphrase and he says, “It will happen to you too.”

Recalling being tutored about sexual consent, he continued, “And so he goes, and he talks to me, he says, ‘Son, as a man in the situation,’ talks to me about a heterosexual relationship: “If you ever feel like that, girl, woman, hesitate, stop.”

“He even said this, he says, ‘You can even feel like they’re hesitating, and then after you’ve stopped, they can be like, oh, no, no, come on. Do not do it. Hold on until next time.” And he was right, I got into a sense where it was like, “No, no, no. OK, I’m out.” And say, “OK, cool. I’m out.”

‘The girl said, ‘Oh, well, no, come on.’ And I said, “No, no, no.” He said, “Trust that you’ll have one more day when it’s meant to be.”‘

The actor was still able to have some “healthy sexual relationships” with girls who weren’t “ugly” after the blackmail.

He continued, “But once again I was very clear, this wasn’t right, this wasn’t cool, this wasn’t the way it is.

“After that I had some healthy sexual relationships and girls I liked and they liked me and we started getting intimate and it was nice and awkward and all those things but it wasn’t that ugly.”

When he was abused a few years later, he did not “connect” the two experiences.

The actor revealed in his memoir that he was molested by another man when he was a teenager.

Matthew wrote about the horrifying incident in which he was “beaten unconscious” by his male attacker when he was 18 and being attacked.

The Dallas Buyers’ Club star adds that he was “in the back of a van” when the attack took place.

The gold star hasn’t had therapy but said the people around him helped him deal with the trauma.

Matthew vowed that the abuse he faced growing up would never make him “scared of relationships” or stop him from trusting others.

He said: “I will not be afraid of relationships because my first experience was blackmail. uh uh This is an aberration. No no. It’s not like that.

“And if I keep going – and I’m not going to let it get me down. I’m going to say, ‘I’m not going to let this destroy my sense of trust in people and say, ‘No, I can have a healthy relationship.’ Not negotiable. No.’

He added: “Happened. Am I denying it happened? no I don’t deny it happened. Ugly. Pooh.

“I still get it, even telling you that story, I get it — but will I wear this? I’ve made my decision, non-negotiable, I’m not going to carry that, bring that baggage into the life that I’m going to lead and how I treat people and how I trust people and how I look at the circumstances and the risk I could take.’

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