While the heart of “The Bachelor” franchise is finding love, it has also tackled a good deal of social issues, including drug and alcohol addiction. However, there is another type of addiction that has not been openly discussed within the franchise until recently: sex addiction.
Belinda “Love” Rygier, who appeared in 2017’s “The Bachelor Australia”, recently opened up about her sex addiction, admitting she’s had sex with more than 700 men. According to The Daily Mail: “The former reality star, who rose to fame in 2017 on Matty J’s season of The Bachelor, said she was dealing with ‘unhealed trauma’ and she’s not ashamed of having a large number of sexual partners.”
According to WebMD, “Sex addiction is defined as a lack of control over sexual thoughts, urges and impulses. While sexual impulses are natural, sex addiction refers only to behaviors that are excessive and significantly affect one’s life in a negative way.
Rygier talked about her sex addiction and recovery on the August 22, 2022 episode of ‘You’re a Grub Mate’, an Australian morning radio show hosted by Ben Harvey and Liam Stapleton, aka Ben & Liam. During the interview, the 38-year-old revealed that she has been a recovering sex addict for eight years and has been abstinent for 15 months. She now uses her experiences to help others suffering from addiction through her relationship boot camps.
The former “Bachelor” contestant told Ben & Liam that at the height of her addiction, she “went out five or six times a week” and sometimes picked up men from supermarkets. Though she’s lost count of the exact number of people she’s slept with, she’s sure it’s over 700.
Rygier clarified: “Men were really good at telling me what I want to hear. My love language is affirmation. So when a guy told me what I wanted to hear, I thought ‘wow, this guy really likes me’. So it went more to feel beautiful, to feel validated, to feel loved than to actually have sex.”
This is not to say that Rygier is not interested in sex. She admitted to Ben & Liam that she has always had a strong sex drive, and she still has. But instead of treating sex like it’s “a hobby,” she’s waiting to be intimate with someone she feels a real connection with.
According to a Sept. 17 article in The Daily Mail, “As she followed the road to recovery, Ms. Rygier made serious inquiries about her soul as she worked through her complicated childhood and evasive personality.”
The outlet continued: “Rygier said her addiction spiraled out of control came to a head when one of these men became abusive, but was later told she could not press charges because she ‘scratched’ the man while defending herself. .”
Rygier explained: “When he pushed me down the stairs and locked me in the garage, I had a black eye and they thought my hand was broken. It was pretty bad. I went to work and they sent me home. The police came and they said that because he had a scratch on his arm from my ring after I tried to get it off me, we could both go to jail for domestic violence.”
Rygier called that experience her “turning point.” She started going to therapy and did a lot of self-examination to find out where her behavior was coming from. “I was never aware,” she told The Daily Mail. “The moment I was gone I thought, ‘Where’s a hot guy?’ Sex is the only addiction I fell for because it made me feel loved. Love is really what I was missing in my life.’”
While the journey to recovery hasn’t been easy, Rygier says that once she made the decision to change, it went pretty quickly. “I will have sex again, but with someone I have a connection with,” she told Ben & Liam.
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